I will warn you now, a lot of yall probably gone be mad at me by the end of this. But I’m so over this whole “We gotta support all Black people!” hive mindset we have. I love Black people; I’m pretty sure anyone who follows me or this site knows that. But even I gotta say that sometimes we just gotta let people go, or at least be willing to critique them. We spend waaaayyy too much time going to war for Black people, particularly Black men, who have proven time and time again that they aint shit. Yes, I’m talking about Nate Parker, but I’m also talking about R. Kelly, Cosby, Tyga, them ashys, that raggedy nigga who everyone tells you not to call the police on because then he’ll be “another Black man locked up” and them rich Black folks that “made it” and now spend their lives telling other Black folks to pull up their pants and their bootstraps to get ahead. Fuck em all. They aint no leaders and they don't deserve our support.
Yes, I’m big mad. I’m so sick of watching people be told that they are divisive (and being told that myself) when we refuse to support when somebody Black does something stupid or down right evil. I’m sick of the “the message is more important” and “this is a conspiracy” folks who swear that everything negative that happens to Black men is something done to dismantle the Black community. Newsflash: some Black men are just trash. That’s okay (well, no it’s not but you know what I mean). I swear, not everybody is worth us rallying behind just because they got dark skin. Some of these skin folks is not kin folks, and personally I don’t see the purpose in us trying to make them such. It is not divisive to want to protect the more vulnerable embers of our community, nor is it a distraction to want to hold the more privileged accountable for what they do.
You have to have heard about the Nate Parker rape saga by now. You also have to know that Nate is releasing a movie based on the story of Nat Turner in October. Of course, when this came out everybody’s immediate reaction was the same thing that happened with Cosby, only instead of buying NBC (which Cosby was absolutely NOT about to do), Nate Parker was about to revolutionize Blacks on film. Which, honestly, is a little more likely than Cosby doing anything worthwhile for Black people today. Birth of A Nation was widely praised and was a movie that I was excited to see. But after the news broke about his case I, and many other people, decided not to support the film. That is a personal choice. It is up to the person in question to figure out if they can separate the artist enough to enjoy the art. Some people can. Some people cannot. And some people can do it on a case by case basis. It is not my job or anyone else's to force people to see or not see something that is put out by someone they don't agree with, ESPECIALLY when that person has downplayed the damage they caused and tried to paint themselves as a victim. The truth of the matter is that this is a messy situation, and there is no one way to feel about it. What really pisses me off about the situation is the people who are trying to make this some cut and dry situation where you have to choose either allegiance to the Black race or allegiance to white supremacy, and this is NOT that type of situation.
Now I am not so foolish as to not realize the racial implications of this. I know that Black men have a history of being accused of rape by white women. I know that the timing of this is somewhat fishy (though that could also be chalked up to the fact that now Parker is in the national spotlight more than ever before). I also know that these men are facing such harsh backlash because they are Black. That’s what a lot of people use as a justification as to why we should still support our “brothers” and not be swayed by the racist media. But I also know that would probably have a better or stronger effect if Black men weren’t also disgustingly biased against Black women. That would probably be more effective if Black men weren’t disgustingly homophobic (including Nate Parker himself). This is not to say that other groups of people (women, straight folks, other races, etc.) aren’t those things as well, but other groups of people are allowed to disengage and not support their terrible people. There weren’t any white folks saying “You’re not white if you don’t continue to support Woody Allen or Stephen Collins”. It’s funny how willing we are to give passes to outside folks for any reason, but the second an actual Black person has valid critique for another Black person, especially a Black male, they are called anti-Black or divisive.
I know why this happens of course. Its patriarchy. The Black man is untouchable, the head of the home, the notch right under God and all that jazz. Anyone who does not give unwavering support the Black man is therefore against God’s divine will for the Black family and the success of the Black race. But as I have said before, we have to realize that the people really keeping the Black community afloat right now are Black women and Black queer folks. In fact, many have noticed how dangerous a lot of Black men are and refuse to be silenced in the desire to continue to uplift Black men who actually don’t deserve uplift. All I’m saying is that we are rallying behind these men who actually do us harm, and are refusing to support the people who are actually out here in the streets, in the workplace and wherever strengthening our community. We all have those moments of blindly supporting Black people (myself included) but when these Black folks are out here abusing and assaulting the Black folks who are doing the real work, we really gotta evaluate who we give our support to and who we make into a hero. I believe Huey Freeman said it best; not everybody is a hero.
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